Stephen Henry Gomory of Tarrytown, born April 1, 1964, died at home on September 19, 2013 four years after being diagnosed with brain cancer.
Steve was the husband of Beth Hanson; father of four sons, Shane O'Connor, Owen, Hugh, and Russell Gomory; son of Laura Seitz and Ralph Gomory and stepson of Lilian Gomory Wu; brother of Andrew Gomory and Susan Keisler; and stepbrother of Natasha Mayers, Michael, Roxanne, Daniel, and Peter Seitz; and uncle to many nieces and nephews.
Steve grew up in Croton-on-Hudson and Chappaqua, graduated from Croton Harmon High School in 1982, and received a BA in architecture from Columbia University and an MS in computer science from New York University.
Steve held many positions in software development at both large companies and start-ups, including IBM Research, Juice Software, Digital Railroad, Smarts, Acclaro, and eventually started his own consulting company, Little Endian. Steve was a gifted problem solver and loved computer programming.
Steve had many deep and enduring interests, among them playing, coaching and refereeing soccer, sailing on the Hudson, woodworking professionally and in his home shop, and he was a skilled gardener and skier.
Steve was genuinely curious about people, and he brought kindness, empathy, wisdom, and insight to his many friendships. He enjoyed life with a sly sense of humor and open-minded, optimistic outlook. Steve's internal confidence and ability to consider many perspectives freed him from conventional ways of seeing things.
Steve brought all of these qualities to his family life, and they found their fullest expression there. With his sons, he was loving, patient, focused, compassionate, and fun. He knew them as individuals, cared about them enormously, and gave them space to be themselves. Steve was a loving and supportive husband who shared his life with an open heart.
Steve dealt with his illness with incredible grace and acceptance. As he became sicker he sought and found new ways to give and contribute, to the community as a hospice and literacy volunteer, and to his friends and family in innumerable thoughtful interactions. Steve's symptoms eventually limited him cognitively and physically, but he was not afraid to acknowledge these changes and to ask for help.
Since Steve's diagnosis he and Beth found a community and a great source of comfort and support through the Musella Foundation.